The initial exchange of “I love you” between a boy and girl cements their relationship. It’s an instant, can’t-help-it life glitter moment you’ll remember for the rest of your life.
As months and years pass, “I love you” can feel warm in your heart, like hot chocolate on a snowy day. It can hit the spot. It can reinforce the mission of togetherness and melt away the outside tension of everyday life … that is, if we let it.
However, “I love you?” imparts fear that the person receiving the message might not return the sentiment. When posed as a question, those three words convey expectation for the other person to repeat it, even if they don’t want to. It implies that love is expected to be maintained, although quite possibly, the love could be missing. It could be a wake-up call to restore the love and to act.
Perhaps “I love you” accompanies a quick peck on the cheek and is said as an afterthought without eye contact or even a guarantee that the receiver even heard it.
I’ve had the honor of saying the first tender “I love you” to my children, a breathless “I looove you” to a boy I love, and even “I love you?” to someone when it was time to make changes in my life. It has helped me to gauge where I’m at and where I need to be. Paying close attention to those words led me to just the right place at just the right time, and I am grateful for that.
How do you tell people that you love them? Is it the way you mean to say it?
If not, you have the power to change it. Make eye contact and be present in the moment while delivering those sweet words. Then, repeat.